Some Thoughts and Reflections
On filling your life with meaningful things, problem solving, deriving wisdom from your lineage and loneliness epidemic
Something to look forward to
If you have a holiday ticket booked which is coming over in few months, you live your life looking forward to your holiday. Any inconveniences or hard things happening in your life becomes slightly more bearable as your holiday is just around the corner.
The joy, the hope, the excitement and the relief we feel just on the thought of having a break from the life we are living now makes us live this life with a different mindset. If you live by yourself and your holiday involves visiting your loved ones, then you look forward to the feelings of being loved and taken care by the people who love you the most. May be, this is just a way to trick our minds, and life will feel better when we fill it with more things that we look forward to.
Life is not a problem to solve
Problem solving is one of the aspects I always count on when I think about the things I like about my job. Recently, I realized this problem-solving habit of mine goes deeper in every dimension of my life.
I kind of live my life like I am solving a problem. May be, my life is not a problem to solve. May be, the things which are missing in my life at the moment will come to me at some time, that time could be tomorrow or next month or next year. The thing which is not very pleasant about living your life like you are solving a problem is that it’s an exhausting way of living. I am constantly collecting inputs from outside world and my inner world to solve my problem well. The constant input of my problems are my feelings. How am I feeling, changes every day. Sometimes it changes multiple times in a day. So, the solution that my mind might come up with is different at different times. Being a woman with big emotions, I really have to give myself all the time to feel and process my emotions, before I can conclude about anything in life. This is a very different way of living in the world of urgency we are living now.
May be, problem-solving pattern is just your mind’s way to act in control. The reality is most of the things are not in our control. If you are trying to gain control by any means, you are just exhausting yourself. The only thing which is our control is take intentional actions towards our goals and surrender. Obviously, it’s easily said or written than done. It’s a way of living to be practiced daily, until it becomes something that comes naturally to you.
Deriving wisdom from our Lineages
My dad got retired few months ago from his government job. He was in the same job for more than thirty years, changed departments but under the same employer. I wonder and ask this question to my dad multiple times how you can do that for so long when I have thought of quitting my job once a month.
Our parent’s generation is completely different than our generation. Today’s generation is ready to quit on everything so easily and that generation didn’t even know to quit on the things which are not serving them in any way.
I feel, the present generation is the generation who is creating new templates to do everything in life. The old templates to do life, marriages, relationships, friendships, jobs or businesses are not working anymore for everyone. We are creating new templates of doing life and that’s why it’s taking time, that’s why we feel lost in-betweens and that’s why we all are doing this very important work of knowing ourselves. But when you create something new, you can take some good things from the old template and add fresh and better stuff to it. There is so much wisdom in our parents and grandparent’s life, spend time with them, listen to their stories and add wisdom from their lives in the new templates we are building.
The Loneliness Epidemic
Recently, I heard someone saying in one of the reels I saw on gram that we are living in the loneliness epidemic at the moment. People are more feeling lonelier than ever in their lives.
This loneliness epidemic we all are in now could be one of the side effects of the covid lockdowns the world has faced. Covid has taught the world many things about life and one of the things it has taught about is the importance of having our people or community around.
The loneliness could be the side-effect of the digital era we are in now. When I travel to my work in train, most of the people including me are looking at their phones. People having chat with a stranger is becoming a rare thing. Also, there are almost no reasons left to talk to a stranger as everything you wanna know about any city, restaurants, tourist spots, way to reach somewhere etc. are easily found on our phones. The culture of small talks is becoming so common everywhere. People are preferring to do work from home all the time. It just feels the world is suffering from the conveniences and ease we have in today’s time.
I hope you all are doing well. Thanks for being here.
Lots of love and healing,
Harneek
This week’s recommendations:
My favorite get-into-action quotes for self-respect and overcoming toxic relationships by
. This one make you remember how powerful you can be if you are brave enough to respect yourself and set clear boundariesThe Inconvenient Truth About Self-Worth by
on self-love and self-worth and how to practice them in realNot all trees are for leaning against by
. This words on this one feels like a soothing balm to read. The healing nature of mother nature explained so beautifully in this one.
"May be, problem-solving pattern is just your mind’s way to act in control. The reality is most of the things are not in our control. If you are trying to gain control by any means, you are just exhausting yourself. The only thing which is our control is take intentional actions towards our goals and surrender."
So relatable. And so eloquently said.
Thank you Harneek.
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Great thoughts here!
I am noticing that in the NEXT generation, they are more willing to give things a go. While we overthink it all. They’re starting and making money with side hustles straightaway, while we try to perfect the “perfect” business.