June Reflections

Some reflective thoughts and affirmations

1. Don’t postpone the stuff you need to do today to tomorrow for long. Tomorrow will have its own chores.

2. Even in the self-love journey, after loving and admiring yourself for some time, there will come a phase where you might not like yourself that much but stay committed to yourself. You are the only constant you have.

3. Everything is indeed transactional. If you have told me these lines three years back, I would have not liked you and might have labelled you materialistic. But now I truly believe in it. The output of any job, friendship, relationship, social gathering, coffee catch up etc should be greater than you are putting in. When you are measuring this, take into consideration your time, energy, emotional and physical wellbeing too.

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4. There is no way that whatever good you put into the world, is not gonna come back to you in some form or shape. It might take some time but it’s coming.

5. You will get the promotion, the house and your birthday trip will feel like a dream.

6. Your anxiety lies to you sometimes. You are loved, protected, supported and blessed more than you believe.

7. Every rejection is a re-direction. Every heartbreak is an opportunity to understand yourself. There is still work you need to do to acknowledge, feel, validate and process all your emotions that follows.

8. Your inner child, your present version and your higher self are all living in you together. Recently, I had a crush on someone. My inner child was too keen to jump ahead to see what happens next, my present self was getting troubled by my inner child and my higher self offered validation to both my inner child and the present self. My higher self also affirmed that the final decision will be hers and we will be ok with whatever happens.

9. When anything in our present reminds of something traumatic that has happened in our past, our mind concludes a story based on our past. That’s just our mind’s way of protecting ourselves. In that moment, we kind of mix our past and present, and lose the ability of seeing our present for what it is. Give yourself grace there and have patience to wait for things to unfold itself. The story could be very different this time.

10. If you can tell me “I love you and you are beautiful every single day”, your chances are quite high. If you read what I write about every single time, your chances are higher. If you send me a handwritten letter/postcard and flowers, I am sold. If you can sit with me when I am feeling something hard without trying to actively change it or deny it, we can think about creating a life together.

11. There will always be a part in me who will find joy in doing things for other people. I don’t have to get rid of that part of me. I only have to practice doing the same more for myself.

12. The real signs of progress are quality of your conversations, quality of your relationships, your ability to let a heavy emotion pass, the peace in your heart, your ability to find beauty in mundane things and your commitment to learn about yourself and grow.

13. At the core, I am a person who doesn’t like to change things a lot. May be, as a sensitive person who can have big emotions, it takes me longer to process a change than others. But I am learning even a small intentional change can feel like a new and fresh start.

I hope you all are doing well. It’s getting cold here and I have been enjoying reading all of you beautiful human in my blanket with a cup of tea.

Love and Healing,

Harneek!!

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This week’s recommendations:

• The Tentative World by

  Karen Auvinen
  . Reading this gave me hope, warmth and comfort

• Permutation and combinations of Uncertainty by

  Gargi
  . Reading this gave me the courage to validate all parts of myself

• My dog is teaching me how to rest. by

  Marissa Price, MSW
  . Some amazing reminders from Marissa’s dog Kofi.