Everything is Alright
Reflections from the month of April
April has been a month full of quite high highs and low lows for me. There were moments filled with pure joy and bliss but also moments of worry, overwhelm and anxiety. The more I was trying to make sense of what I am feeling and why I am feeling so, the harder it felt. There were moments which felt like nothing is working or getting better. The only option which was sort of working was writing about it without any shame and judgement.
Words of affirmation is one of my love languages I believe so whenever I am feeling something unpleasant or hard, I start a conversation with my inner child which goes something like this.
Harneek: Hey, how are you feeling?
My Inner Child: I have been feeling low and doesn’t wanna talk to anyone.
Harneek: That’s ok, you can take your time. Just remember, I love you and I am here for you whenever you feel like talking.
And then after some time, I pick my diary and start writing about what’s happening, what I am feeling and where is it coming from.
Below are some of the things I have been observing, learning and practicing with myself which helped me to feel a bit better this month:
Whenever you are feeling something hard, don’t try to assign meaning to yourself or your life in that particular moment. You are more than what you are feeling at any moment.
When you catch yourself worrying about things in future, make a list of things that you were worried in the past and it worked perfectly fine for you in the past and present moment.
When some people remind you of your older unhealed version, behave extra kindly to them. Act in the way, you expected the world to be like with you in those moments. Take that as an opportunity to offer love to your older version.
If somebody’s behavior is harming you or draining you, take a back step and observe it could be you projecting something from your past.
Your definition of fun could be different than others and that’s alright. Some days fun can be making a meal at home, reading your favorite book or video calling your parents.
I know you wanna help everyone and helping people fulfils you but notice the harm you are doing to yourself in the process. Your priority is to save yourself first, before you can help anyone.
Don’t do things you don’t wanna do. When you do things, which a part of you doesn’t wanna do but doing out of some pressure, you build resentment against yourself and people around you.
I hope you all are doing well and thanks for being here.
Lots of love and healing,
Harneek!!
This week’s recommendations:
- . Alex’s words gave me hope and made me feel better about life
- on internal struggles when things outside are getting better or are good in some ways
impermanence by
. Beautiful word’s by Tommy on handling ever changing landscape of life
:) <3